For Example Diane Lane did it in Unfaithful. Annette Bening did it in American Beauty. Sarah Jessica Parker did it on Sex and the City. And they’re not the only ones. Although women haven’t surpassed men on the cheating scale, when I read the NY Times last week more married women than ever before are jumping in the sack with someone other than their husbands. According to an American Sexual Behavior study, 14% of married women have cheated at least once, compared to 22% of married men. Not that we’re condoning two-timing from either party, but here are the top 10 reasons women cheat.
*10-Not Enough Sex
Remember the good old days when you could stay up forever fooling around? Then responsibility entered the mix -- and kids -- and before you knew it, sleep was more important than sex. Well, women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making her feel that way, she could seek it elsewhere. To keep that spark alive, ask her out on date nights, send her provocative emails at lunch, and by all means, don’t let life get in the way of kissing, cuddling and sex.
*9-Being The Bad Girl
Just as men feel the urge to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner sex kitten just waiting to be unleashed -- and when the beast escapes from the cage, look out.
*frisky behavior
usually rears its ugly head in response to some sort of life change -- major weight loss, new job, new friends, mid-life crisis, etc. Keep the lines of communication open and she’ll be more likely to talk to you about what’s going on instead of spilling her guts to a stranger in the night.
*8-Self-Esteem
Sex can be an instant pick-me-up; a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If your wife or girlfriend has self-esteem issues, it doesn’t mean she’s automatically going to cheat -- and it’s certainly not your fault if she does -- but there are ways to make her feel secure in the relationship that could help her from straying. Pay attention to her, ask her questions and don’t hold back on compliments -- a little flattery goes a long way with women.
*7-Revenge/Payback For Past Wrongs
No, you didn’t cheat, but whether you blew your retirement fund in Vegas or got caught in a
big lie, you did break her trust (and, possibly, her heart). She feels wounded and betrayed -- and wants to hurt you the same way you hurt her. To regain her trust, it’s not enough just to tell her you’re sorry; you have to show her. Actions speak louder than words
*6-Lack Of Intimacy
You have it all: the house, the two-car garage and the two-and-a-half bathrooms -- at least on the outside. But inside, the relationship is lacking the one thing women want most: intimacy. It’s not just sex that makes women feel connected in a relationship; it’s touching, kissing, cuddling, and communicating. Women crave it, and she could seek it elsewhere if she’s not getting it at home. To improve intimacy, spend quality time together, give her a foot massage, make a romantic dinner for two -- anything that will give her a sense of unity and closeness.
*5-Feeling Neglected/Ignored Under appreciated
Women wear many hats in a relationship -- housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter, etc. When she feels more like a maid than a girlfriend/wife, that’s when she could stray. The fact that you spend all your time at work or on the golf course gives her double reason to seek attention elsewhere. No, you can’t quit your job, but you can thank her for all her selfless deeds -- and do your share around the house.
*4-Your Emotional Withdrawal
Women are emotional beings. Not only do they need physical support, but they also need emotional support. Once you retreat from the relationship, she sees it as a sign that things are through -- a breakup is inevitable. So, she’s not really cheating, she’s moving on. To avoid this, be present in the relationship. Yes, that means sharing your icky feelings, but it’s better than the alternative, right?
*3-Bedroom Boredom
Sex can become monotonous if you let it -- the same position; the same setting; the same person. An affair adds adventure and gets her adrenaline flowing. To avoid routine, avoid repetition. Sweep her away for the weekend, make out at the movies, kiss her for no reason at all... The unexpected adds excitement.
*2-Exit Strategy
Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship, which is much harder to fix. An affair is the easy way out -- or at least that’s how she sees it. That’s another reason communication is key. Let her know that she can talk to you about anything and that you love her enough to work through any bumps in the relationship road.
*1-Revenge For Your Cheating
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Because you cheated, she wants to get back at you and give you a dose of your own medicine. Cheating is her vengeance, her chance to even the playing field. No, you can’t undo your indiscretion, but you can ask for her forgiveness, assure her it will
never happen again and suggest couples therapy to help you get through this tough time.
Her Cheating Heart
When you add up all the reasons women cheat, it’s usually her heart (or her ego) that needs healing, not her libido. Keep the lines of communication open, be supportive and encouraging and work at keeping that spark ignited. In other words: Don’t give her a reason to stray well honestly if my misses does like that no way I can keep that relationship safe for a second in Islam we say "I Divorce you three of them"Sorry if I said unexpected words.
Monday 27 August 2012
What Makes Men Fall in Love
There’s into you, and then there’s head-over-heels saga. These little things tip a man over that edge when you fall in LOVE. It’s a baffling question: Is there some specific moment or event that makes a guy suddenly decide
“Yes, I think I love her”?
Well, the answer isn’t clear-cut, but there are some general principles. “Men have certain innate needs that must be met before they truly feel connected to you,” and everybody know that if I'm no wrong.
*The Secret theory of How We Fall in Love.
When a guy realizes, consciously or not, that you’re ideal on all these levels, that’s when he’ll commit.”Boiled down, guys have four primal relationship desires that are sometimes sated by the tiniest of moves by you. Here, some people explain it with examples so you can put these insights to use when your
guy is at the brink.
*The Desire: To Protect or help
Believe it or not, the so-called stoic sex is hard wired to nurture. Sheltering you from harm makes him feel suddenly, which makes him feel good. “Not that you should act helpless, but letting him see your vulnerable side will bring him closer because it unlocks his instincts to take care of you,” and that knows it.
So give him chances to take charge, and thank him after he does. When a guy associates you with feeling like Superman, of course he’ll want to couple up. These little things can draw out his hero side.
Give him a job. Ask him to fix or build you something. Performing concrete tasks is a way of bonding that enhances his sense of success.
Ask his opinion. Whether it’s about your 401 (the mother thing ) options or it telegraph that you value his brain as much as you do his brawn.
*The Desire: Freedom
Even emotionally healthy men want assurance that their identities will stay put after they’ve become half a happy couple. “By making it clear that you don’t expect your guy to change, he’ll feel like you truly understand him but don’t threaten his sense of self,”
*Secrets You Keep from Yourself.
That leaves him feeling on sturdy enough ground to commit.” The following moves let him know you’re no ball and chain.
Blow him off. Men hate the idea of being tied down socially, so turn down occasional plans. He’ll not only feel easier — and open up more — around you, but he’ll also start to wonder what you’re doing and pursue you more.Share your own fears. Guys often hold back because they think most chicks are baby-hungry ring-hunters. So if you feel nervous about committing, let him know. He’ll be reassured that you’re navigating new waters too, not trying to trap him.
Reinvent yourself. Little changes in your appearance now and then — say, hair up in a ponytail one day, down the next, etc. — remind him that you’ve got zillions of facets to your personality too.
*Desire to Read: no ruts or risks.
Respect his privacy. A physical space that’s totally his is a huge symbol of independence to a man. Signal that you respect that by, say, staying out of desk drawers and not peeking at his caller ID when his phone rings
*The Desire: To Shine
Maybe he’s cocky, but he’s still insecure. Trust me, guys need to know that they’re respected and appreciated. “When being around you increases a guy’s esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he’ll naturally want to be attached to you,” Here, things that show your high value and nudge him toward love.
Make him happier. Laugh when one of you loses balance during sex. Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when he’s crabby. If you can keep things light, even during stressful times, you’ll become indispensable.
Be a social butterfly. Guys are good at left-brain stuff, like sales and sports, but can get awkward when it comes to social graces. Take the lead and charm the people you meet and he’ll be extra grateful to have you. But he may take credit for making those new friends...whatever.
*The Desire: Comfort
“Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when something emotion floods to the brain then You can unleash those love hormones by making him feel like you two just “fit each other .” When he’s so comfortable with you that he stops thinking about your relationship and simply enjoys it, he’ll find himself nudged into love territory. Take these tips maybe they can help.
Let him see you prim. Grooming in front of him enhances intimacy because it’s something other guys don’t get to witness. Just keep it goddess like (applying lipstick or powder), not gross (bleaching your mustache).
Cook together if she isn't Besoro. Being around food spikes his love motion. the more he’ll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.
Stock your pad. When buying groceries you don’t have a preference on, get a brand he uses. He’ll subconsciously feel at home at your place. Sleep with him mostly in light days. Cat nap near him or let yourself doze off in his arms so he sees you in your most trusting, completely relaxed state. Mostly don't forget to have sex with him in day time in three places like in Leaving Room,in the Shower and the kitchen. I hope it works well it will believe me and the funny of it is I don't believe In LOVE.
“Yes, I think I love her”?
Well, the answer isn’t clear-cut, but there are some general principles. “Men have certain innate needs that must be met before they truly feel connected to you,” and everybody know that if I'm no wrong.
*The Secret theory of How We Fall in Love.
When a guy realizes, consciously or not, that you’re ideal on all these levels, that’s when he’ll commit.”Boiled down, guys have four primal relationship desires that are sometimes sated by the tiniest of moves by you. Here, some people explain it with examples so you can put these insights to use when your
guy is at the brink.
*The Desire: To Protect or help
Believe it or not, the so-called stoic sex is hard wired to nurture. Sheltering you from harm makes him feel suddenly, which makes him feel good. “Not that you should act helpless, but letting him see your vulnerable side will bring him closer because it unlocks his instincts to take care of you,” and that knows it.
So give him chances to take charge, and thank him after he does. When a guy associates you with feeling like Superman, of course he’ll want to couple up. These little things can draw out his hero side.
Give him a job. Ask him to fix or build you something. Performing concrete tasks is a way of bonding that enhances his sense of success.
Ask his opinion. Whether it’s about your 401 (the mother thing ) options or it telegraph that you value his brain as much as you do his brawn.
*The Desire: Freedom
Even emotionally healthy men want assurance that their identities will stay put after they’ve become half a happy couple. “By making it clear that you don’t expect your guy to change, he’ll feel like you truly understand him but don’t threaten his sense of self,”
*Secrets You Keep from Yourself.
That leaves him feeling on sturdy enough ground to commit.” The following moves let him know you’re no ball and chain.
Blow him off. Men hate the idea of being tied down socially, so turn down occasional plans. He’ll not only feel easier — and open up more — around you, but he’ll also start to wonder what you’re doing and pursue you more.Share your own fears. Guys often hold back because they think most chicks are baby-hungry ring-hunters. So if you feel nervous about committing, let him know. He’ll be reassured that you’re navigating new waters too, not trying to trap him.
Reinvent yourself. Little changes in your appearance now and then — say, hair up in a ponytail one day, down the next, etc. — remind him that you’ve got zillions of facets to your personality too.
*Desire to Read: no ruts or risks.
Respect his privacy. A physical space that’s totally his is a huge symbol of independence to a man. Signal that you respect that by, say, staying out of desk drawers and not peeking at his caller ID when his phone rings
*The Desire: To Shine
Maybe he’s cocky, but he’s still insecure. Trust me, guys need to know that they’re respected and appreciated. “When being around you increases a guy’s esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he’ll naturally want to be attached to you,” Here, things that show your high value and nudge him toward love.
Make him happier. Laugh when one of you loses balance during sex. Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when he’s crabby. If you can keep things light, even during stressful times, you’ll become indispensable.
Be a social butterfly. Guys are good at left-brain stuff, like sales and sports, but can get awkward when it comes to social graces. Take the lead and charm the people you meet and he’ll be extra grateful to have you. But he may take credit for making those new friends...whatever.
*The Desire: Comfort
“Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when something emotion floods to the brain then You can unleash those love hormones by making him feel like you two just “fit each other .” When he’s so comfortable with you that he stops thinking about your relationship and simply enjoys it, he’ll find himself nudged into love territory. Take these tips maybe they can help.
Let him see you prim. Grooming in front of him enhances intimacy because it’s something other guys don’t get to witness. Just keep it goddess like (applying lipstick or powder), not gross (bleaching your mustache).
Cook together if she isn't Besoro. Being around food spikes his love motion. the more he’ll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.
Stock your pad. When buying groceries you don’t have a preference on, get a brand he uses. He’ll subconsciously feel at home at your place. Sleep with him mostly in light days. Cat nap near him or let yourself doze off in his arms so he sees you in your most trusting, completely relaxed state. Mostly don't forget to have sex with him in day time in three places like in Leaving Room,in the Shower and the kitchen. I hope it works well it will believe me and the funny of it is I don't believe In LOVE.
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